17 and 25 year old dating
Maybe STI testing if she hasn't been practicing safe sex every time, all the time.
Well, first I would say that when you talk to her, try to make sure you express yourself in a way that is about how you feel - rather than what she should do.
I've been a lurker here for some time, and I've seen some great advice given out. I found out that my 17 (18 in 6 months) year old daughter is dating a 25 year old guy that she had previously only been friends with, and Im not sure how to handle this.
First off, my Daughter is a smart, funny, mature, independent girl with a lot of friends and who does very well in school, and is preparing for college next year. She broke up with her last boyfriend (who was her age) because he always had drama going on around him, and unlike a lot of teenagers I know, she hates drama. ) Daughter met him some months ago when her friend got her uncle (The Guy) to drive them to the mall.
So the last few weeks, I notice her texting and talking on the phone to Guy more and more. She and I have discussed sex, safe sex, responsibility and consequences on numerous occasions, and she has confided in me about some of her friends activities; some that she disagrees with.
I start to question her on the nature of their relationship. On that note, I feel she is comfortable talking and being open with me.
I suspect she's not as level headed as you think she is.
That being said, I vote for making a big huge deal about her lying, and also advocate for a visit to a gynecologist or Planned Parenthood.
Trust your daughter's opionions, but talk to her to make sure she knows you're there for her and that she needs to should stay strong. I'd try to find out what this guy's other friends are like. Ditto on I don't think that anything you do or say will change her mind toward him, but will drive her away from you.
You want to make sure that her relationship with him doesn't derail her future college plans.
Since then, he has driven their coed group of friends around town to movies and such on occasion for some months now.
This whole time, Ive been constantly asking why is a 25 year old guy ok with hanging out with a group of 17-18 year olds? But Daughter said that Guy doesnt drink and all his friends do, and he doesnt like to hang out with a bunch of drunk people. By now, Ive met Guy a few times and he actually seems like a nice person. Her dad and I (We are divorced, but try to keep a united front in the raising of the kids) found out they have been dating for a while and are possibly having sex.